Hi. My name is Rebecca, and this lesson may change your life. It may also change the life
of the people who are closest to you in your personal and in your professional life. Why
am I saying that? Because in today's lesson, I'm going to teach you some simple, yet powerful
phrases and expressions that you can use to help stay positive as well as to encourage
other people around you, okay? Now, we all want to be loved and appreciated
and admired and respected. And sometimes it just the takes a few simple words in order
to achieve that. By doing that, we can improve our relationships with other people; we can
increase our confidence and the confidence of people around us; and we can also change
attitudes for the best -- for the better, okay? So let's look at some of these expressions.
And by trying to include them in your daily life, I think you'll see that there will be
quite a change in the relationships that you share with people at work and also at home,
okay? So let's look at some of these expressions. Okay. So if you want to instill confidence
in someone, these are some things you can say. Now, the words here are not difficult.
But as I said, sometimes the simplest things are emotionally hard to say. So what you might
want to do, especially if you're alone, is after I say the sentence, try to repeat it
after me. If you've said something once, it becomes easier to say it again. And then,
in the right situation, you may find that the words come to you more easily, okay? So
here we go. "I know you can do it." Okay? Repeat after
me if you can like. "I know you can do it." Okay? We say that when someone isn't very
sure; he's feeling a little bit afraid or nervous or scared, maybe before an exam. "I
know you can do it." You're showing that you have confidence in them.
Something similar to that, "I have confidence in your abilities." Okay? That's a little
bit more formal. Perhaps you want to use that at work with one of your colleagues, with
someone who you are a supervisor for, right? So -- one of your employees -- "I have confidence
in your abilities." Parents can also use that, okay?
Another one, "I have faith in you." Would you like to repeat it? "I have faith in you."
"I have faith in you" means "I believe you can do it; I know you can do it; I trust you
can do it; I believe you have the ability to succeed in whatever it is that we're talking
about." Okay? "I have faith in you." Next one, "I believe in you." Okay? Now, this
one is actually very powerful. "I believe in you", first of all, is different from saying,
"I believe you." That little preposition changes the meaning. If we say to someone, "I believe
you", it means that I think that what you're saying is true. Let's say somebody else has
another story, you have this story, and I believe your story. "I believe you. I trust
that what you're saying is true and honest and correct." That is, "I believe you." Okay?
But when we add this little preposition "in", and we say to someone, "I believe in you",
it means, "I believe in your potential as a person, your potential as a human being,
to achieve something or to do great thing." So it's actually a very powerful thing to
say to someone, okay? Now, if the person that you're trying to instill
confidence in is yourself, you can also use these on yourself, okay? You can say, "I know
I can do it, or I have confidence in my abilities, or I have faith in myself, or I believe in
myself." Okay? Sometimes we have to do a little bit of self-talk to make ourselves -- to give
ourselves the strength to do something or to face a challenge, okay? All right.
Now, if you want to show your appreciation of someone, you could use some of these simple,
yet powerful phrases, okay? "I trust you." Okay? Again, three simple words, but really
powerful. "I trust you." When you say to someone, "I trust you", you're saying to them that,
"I believe that you are honest, that you are loyal", okay? "I trust you."
Next one, "I respect you." Very powerful. When you say, "I respect you" to someone,
you're saying, "I have an appreciation for your value, your behavior, the choices you
make in your life." Okay? Next one, "I admire you." Okay? When you say
to someone, "I admire you", it means that you believe they have a lot of strength or
strengths that you admire -- the things they have achieved in their life, and how they
have achieved them, or that they face difficulties in a very confident way, all right? Without
giving up. So you say, "I admire you." All right?
And of course, the last one is perhaps the most powerful of all, which we can't use in
every context, but we can use it in more contexts than you might think. Of course, you can say
to someone, "I love you." Okay? You can say that to a spouse or a partner, all right?
You could also use it in a family context, right? Parents can say to their children,
"I love you. You're so beautiful. You're wonderful." Right? You can use it between brothers and
sisters. You can also use it with friends, "I love you." Sometimes the tone of voice
changes between when it's a romantic "I love you" or when it's a fraternal or friendly
"I love you". But it's also very powerful. Somebody feels very encompassed and very accepted
when we say that, okay? All right. Now, the last little clue, to make any of
these sentences which I've explained here more powerful, try to use the person's name
after that. So imagine if someone says to you -- and your name is John -- "I know you
can do it, John." Okay? So if you just add the person's name after that or before that
-- sometimes after it is good because then, they've heard what you have to say. "I have
faith in you, Mary." "I believe in you, Maria." Okay? Why do we -- why does that make it more
powerful? Because everybody loves the sound of their own name. So when you use these phrases
and expressions with the person's name, it will make it even more personalized and even
more effective. Okay? So this is a special kind of lesson to help
you learn of simple words. But simple phrases can sometimes go a long way. Okay?
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